Kate Murphy, a regular contributor to NYTimes on social-cultural matters, started phone interview with me by saying she was stunned to learn at 83% of people would rather, give themselves shock than spend time in quiet self-reflection. What is she asked, and I was glad we could talk about the deep anxieties people experience today that are both generated, and covered up by speedy pace that eliminates any possibility of self-reflection.
SPEED – always going faster and faster — lets you falsely believe are seeking the American dream of success, that you can have it all, and there will no costs. Just keep going. Don’t stop to think, don’t question. You’ll be left behind if you pause a moment for self-reflection. There’s the cost!
I talked with her about addiction as three-pronged necklace: out-of-control behavior, constricted or wild emotions and distorted thinking. The thinking tells us that action, which leads to nation of impulse-dominated people, behaving like four-year olds on play ground.
One of the key mantras I restate the book is: Pause, Ask yourself “what am I doing?” Take a breath. Reflect. Without at working capacity and value, of self-reflection truly abdicate self responsibility.